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Stop saying "Whatever you want!"

Published about 1 month ago • 1 min read

Hi friend,

Stop saying “whatever you want.”

Not because it’s wrong—but because most of the time it’s not actually true.

I want to talk about something small that’s actually not small at all.

When someone asks you what you want—where to eat, what to do, what sounds good—there’s this split-second moment where everything speeds up.

And instead of checking in with yourself, you go with what feels easiest.

You keep things smooth.

You avoid taking up space.

You say, “I’m good with anything.”

And just like that… you leave yourself out of the answer.
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For a lot of us this response is automatic. It’s not that you don’t have preferences. It’s that you’ve learned your preferences are:

  • Optional,
  • Inconvenient,
  • Or something to figure out later.
  • So you bypass yourself, and the more you do this, the harder it becomes to even notice that moment where your voice could have been included.

The shift I want you to try is staying connected to yourself long enough to hear what's there. You can try answering with something like:
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“I could go for Thai…”

  • “Give me a second…”
  • “I think I’m in the mood for something warm…”
  • “Not that, but maybe this…”

You've got this,

Jose 💛

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