Hi friend, If you’ve ever found yourself shutting down or pulling away when things get uncomfortable in a relationship, you’re not alone. That instinct to retreat can be part of an avoidant attachment pattern, a learned way of protecting yourself when connection feels risky. But here’s an important reframe: Managing avoidant attachment doesn’t mean you’ll never pull away again. It’s not about perfection. It’s about awareness. The real growth happens in that small space between impulse and...
11 days ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, Have you ever scrolled through Instagram and seen a post that made you pause—something like, “Let yourself be selfish”—and thought, yes! …or maybe hmm, that doesn’t feel right to me? Here’s the thing: most posts you see online exist somewhere on a spectrum. For someone who’s spent their life putting everyone else first, that “be selfish” message might be exactly the medicine they need. But for someone who’s already great at setting boundaries, maybe what they really need to...
18 days ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, Have you ever tried talking to your inner, younger self? It may sound a little unusual at first, but it can be incredibly grounding and healing. Here are two practices you can try right away: ✨ Use the name you were called as a child. Calling yourself by that name reconnects you to a time when you first needed care and reassurance. ✨ Speak in the language you grew up with. Your first language—the heart language spoken at home—still carries the grounding your younger self needs to...
25 days ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, Over the past couple of weeks, we’ve been talking about scarcity and abundance mindsets. Scarcity isn’t all bad. It can make us creative and help us appreciate the simple things. And abundance isn’t all good, because it can sometimes lead to overwhelm or ignoring limits. Here’s the key: it’s not about choosing one over the other. Both scarcity and abundance shape the way we see ourselves and the world. And both mindsets can be powerful teachers when we let them. ✨ Scarcity can...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, When it comes to mindset, we often hear about scarcity versus abundance, as if we have to pick one side and stay there forever. But the truth is, both scarcity and abundance shape how we see ourselves and the world, and both have wisdom to offer. Scarcity reminds us to be resourceful, creative, and appreciative of the small things. Abundance reminds us that there is more than enough to go around, and encourages us to dream bigger, take risks, and extend generosity. The problem...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, When we talk about “scarcity mentality,” it often gets painted as entirely negative. But the truth is, it’s not all bad, and like most things in life, it’s a spectrum. Scarcity can spark creativity. It can help us appreciate the small and simple things we might otherwise take for granted. It can even inspire us to imagine new possibilities. But if we stay in that place too long, the costs add up. Scarcity can keep us stuck, focused only on what we don’t have. It can push us into...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
When emotions run high, it’s easy to get swept up in racing thoughts or overwhelmed by everything at once. One powerful practice that can bring you back to center is simply pausing to notice what you’re feeling. Ask yourself: What am I feeling right now? And then, where am I feeling it? This gentle check-in helps your brain slow down, makes space to breathe, and gives you clarity about what’s really happening inside you. Sometimes you might not be able to name the exact emotion, and that’s...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Hi there! Today, I want to share a simple but powerful tool with you—one that has shifted the way I respond when I’m triggered. Here’s the question: “How would I respond to this if I were truly prioritizing my self-care? How would I respond if I felt strong?” Triggers have a way of hijacking us. Our bodies tighten, our thoughts race, and before we know it, we’re reacting from old patterns instead of from our power. But this question does something important: It interrupts autopilot. It gives...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
"I get to be now" is my mantra lately, friends. Make it yours as well. This is what it's about:There was a time when so many of us had to hide parts of ourselves just to survive. We learned to shrink, to soften our voices, to tuck away the brightest parts of who we are so we could stay safe. But now—we get to be. We get to be seen. We get to be loud. We get to be tender, messy, awkward, joyful, complicated, fully ourselves. We no longer have to twist or change to fit into spaces that were...
2 months ago • 1 min read