Hi friend, If there’s one thing we can always count on, it’s change. It’s the one constant we all share. Yet, it’s the thing we often resist the most. And honestly? That resistance is exhausting. 😩 But here’s the truth: change is going to show up whether we invite it or not. So instead of bracing against it, what if this week you met change head-on? Think about everything you’ve already navigated. You've probably endured new jobs, moves, shifting friendships, relationships beginning and...
7 days ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, I don’t know about you, but I grew up believing that being an “understanding” person meant keeping my own feelings quiet so everyone else could stay comfortable. 🙊 Sound familiar? The thing is… feelings don’t disappear. They build. They bubble. And eventually, they spill over—usually in ways we don’t feel proud of. 🌋 Here’s the reframe I want to offer you this week: Naming your feelings isn’t selfish. It’s caring. It’s caring for you—your nervous system, your needs, your...
14 days ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, For a long time, I was the kind of person who didn’t want to disturb anyone, bother anyone, or risk “dumping” my feelings on the people I cared about. Maybe you know that feeling too: the tightness in your chest right before you send a text asking for help, or the guilt that creeps in when you consider opening up about something hard. But today, I want to flip that story on its head: Think about someone you really love. Now imagine they come to you with a problem, a fear, or a...
21 days ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, If you grew up in an immigrant or first-generation household, you probably didn’t see a lot of emotional processing happening out loud. Our parents and caregivers didn’t have time to sit with their feelings—they were surviving, working, building, protecting, pushing forward. And if no one ever modeled emotional awareness for us, it makes sense that we weren’t taught how to feel our feelings, name them, or talk about them either. What does that mean for us now? Sometimes, when we’re...
28 days ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, Throughout our lives, we create what I like to call “mental rules." These are guidelines for how we should react, how we should think, and even how we should be. These rules start forming before our brains are fully developed, which is totally normal. The challenge comes when we hold onto them too rigidly. Suddenly, these rules that were meant to guide us start limiting us instead. In this space, I want to help you update those old rules—letting go of what no longer serves you and...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, When emotions run high (yours or someone else’s), it’s easy to confuse discomfort with danger. ⚡️If someone’s anger turns into disrespect or cruelty, you may truly be in emotional or physical danger. In that case, it’s completely OK (and healthy!) to protect yourself. 💛But if someone is simply expressing intense feelings while still treating you with respect, you’re safe, even if it feels uncomfortable in your body. The key is awareness. When you can pause, notice what’s happening,...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, When anxiety spikes, it can feel like you have to do something—send the text, fix the problem, make the decision, find relief right now. That sense of urgency can take over your whole body, pulling you into scramble mode before you even realize it’s happening. But here’s the truth: urgency doesn’t always mean danger. You can pause. You can breathe. You can give that wave of panic a little space instead of letting it run the show. 💨 Inhale. 💨 Exhale. Then ask yourself: “Am I trying...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, If you’ve ever found yourself shutting down or pulling away when things get uncomfortable in a relationship, you’re not alone. That instinct to retreat can be part of an avoidant attachment pattern, a learned way of protecting yourself when connection feels risky. But here’s an important reframe: Managing avoidant attachment doesn’t mean you’ll never pull away again. It’s not about perfection. It’s about awareness. The real growth happens in that small space between impulse and...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, Have you ever scrolled through Instagram and seen a post that made you pause—something like, “Let yourself be selfish”—and thought, yes! …or maybe hmm, that doesn’t feel right to me? Here’s the thing: most posts you see online exist somewhere on a spectrum. For someone who’s spent their life putting everyone else first, that “be selfish” message might be exactly the medicine they need. But for someone who’s already great at setting boundaries, maybe what they really need to...
2 months ago • 1 min read