Undoing colorism one step at a time
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Hi friend, When colorism is learned early, it doesn’t just live in our thoughts, it lives in our bodies. It shows up in how we react, how we manage ourselves, and how we adjust in real time. This week, we explored how lighter skin has often been treated as “good,” how darkness has been something to navigate or manage, and how those early messages continue to shape our sense of safety today. Undoing colorism doesn’t start with saying the perfect thing. It starts with building capacity:
Colorism is active. That means undoing it has to be active too. And it happens in moments like this, one response at a time. Take a moment this week to notice one automatic reaction or thought, and see if you can give yourself another choice. Small steps, repeated, create change. Jose 💛
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