Your first reaction isn't a problem
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Hi friend, A lot of people assume this kind of quick reaction is a flaw, but for many of us, reacting quickly was a skill we had to develop. We had to read the room; we had to notice tone shifts and try to understand what someone meant before they even said it out loud. That kind of awareness helped many of us stay connected in environments where relationships felt uncertain. So if you notice your brain filling in blanks today, it's not random. It's a pattern your nervous system learned a long time ago. Notice that reaction. Don't judge it! The awareness will give a moment to pause. It will give you a moment to ask, "How do I want to respond?" Not how fear wants to respond. Not how your assumptions want to respond. But how you want to show up. Responding isn’t about being perfect. It’s about practicing the version of yourself you want to be. What are you imaging this week? Let me know! Jose 💛
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Hi friend,In the past, I've been asked about why race needs to be named when we talk about leadership. Historically, for many white politicians, race hasn’t had to be named. Whiteness functioned as the default in positions of power for generations. When something is the default, it gets treated as neutral. But that neutrality was built through exclusion. For many Black and Latin leaders, race shapes who gets visibility, who gets legitimacy, and who is recognized as authority. Naming that...
Hi friend, You know, narratives are commonly shaped through our daily interactions. What gets named consistently becomes normal. What is normal starts to feel central, and what feels central shapes our sense of belonging. If blackness or any other part of your heritage has been pushed to the margins, this won't change unless you practice it. Here are some examples: You can interrupt distancing language. Instead of brushing off comments that keep your sense of identity small, bring it back to...
Hi friend, I’ve been talking a lot about awareness lately, and I want to expand on something that doesn’t get named enough. Awareness doesn’t just bring clarity. Sometimes it brings emotion. The more aware you are, the more you can see your own patterns: How you adapted What you absorbed Who you learned to be in order to stay safe or belong. Noticing these things can stir up a lot. I’ve seen it in myself and in the people I work with: anger, sadness, defensiveness, and even grief. Grief isn’t...