The part nobody warns you about
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Hi friend, This is the part people don’t usually warn you about. You can make the right choice and still feel activated afterward. Discomfort after a boundary, a decision, or a moment of honesty doesn’t mean you did something wrong. It means your nervous system is learning something new. Learning to sit with discomfort doesn’t happen on the first try. It happens through repetition. Through staying—again and again—even when your body wants to brace, explain, or rush away. In the video I'm sharing with you today, which you can see down below, I'm not modeling calm. I'm modeling practice. Practice looks like:
Each moment of staying teaches your system something new, like that you can feel discomfort and still be safe, still be here, and still rest. This is how trust gets built. Not through forcing yourself to "be okay," but slowly and gently through lived experience. If this resonates, I’d love for you to sit with it this week—not to perfect it, but to practice. Jose 💛
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