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Hi friend, The video I'm sharing with you this week depicts a common scene: me leaving early from a social engagement because my energy is drained. It happens pretty often this time of year with so many holiday parties and gatherings. I made this video because I want to encourage you to do what I do: to leave when you need to. Sometimes people will make comments like, "You're leaving already?" "Stay longer!" "Come on!" Even though it may not sound like it at the time, these are ways that people let us know they love us and that they want us around. But if you need something different, if you need to protect your energy, that's OK too. You don't owe anyone exhaustion. You owe yourself acceptance, and accepting yourself doesn't mean staying past your limit. It means listening when your body tells you, "that's enough." Jose đź’›
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Coaching with Jose
Hi friend, When hesitation to reach out or connect shows up, most people mislabel it. They call it avoidance. They call it lack of desire. They tell themselves they’re just “bad at connection.” That label matters more than we realize, because the story you tell yourself determines what you do next. When you shame hesitation, you lose choice. You either force yourself forward, overriding your body, or you pull all the way back and disappear. But here’s what I see again and again in my work:...
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