You’re Not a Burden. You’re a Human Being!
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Hi friend, For a long time, I was the kind of person who didn’t want to disturb anyone, bother anyone, or risk “dumping” my feelings on the people I cared about. Maybe you know that feeling too: the tightness in your chest right before you send a text asking for help, or the guilt that creeps in when you consider opening up about something hard. But today, I want to flip that story on its head: Think about someone you really love. Now imagine they come to you with a problem, a fear, or a need. Do you roll your eyes? Do you think, Ugh, they’re such a burden? Of course not! You lean in. You listen. You want to be there for them. That desire to show up for each other is literally what connection is for. We don’t build relationships just to laugh together or send memes back and forth (though those parts are wonderful). We build connection so that when life gets heavy, we don’t have to carry the weight alone. And here’s the twist: If you want to be the kind of person others can come to—the soft landing, the steady presence, the friend who really shows up—then you also have to practice letting yourself be held. Support is not a one-way street. Connection isn’t a performance. Interdependence is healthy. Needing help doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human. So the next time you hesitate to reach out, try this gentle reframing: Allow yourself to be the kind of friend to yourself that you already are to others. Let people show up for you. You deserve support, too. You’ve got this. And you don’t have to do it alone. Jose 💛
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