What if both sides of the social media spectrum are right?
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Hi friend, Have you ever scrolled through Instagram and seen a post that made you pause—something like, “Let yourself be selfish”—and thought, yes! …or maybe hmm, that doesn’t feel right to me? Here’s the thing: most posts you see online exist somewhere on a spectrum. For someone who’s spent their life putting everyone else first, that “be selfish” message might be exactly the medicine they need. But for someone who’s already great at setting boundaries, maybe what they really need to practice is interdependence and connection. The truth is, your reaction tells you where you are on that spectrum. Instead of asking “Is this right or wrong?”, try asking, 👉🏽 “Where do I fall on this spectrum today?” That simple mindset shift helps you take what serves you, leave what doesn’t, and keep growing with nuance and self-awareness. So next time a post hits you the wrong (or right) way, take it as information. It’s not about right or wrong—it’s about where you are, and what you might need next on your growth journey. Keep loving your awkward self, Jose Jose 💛
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