✨ What if your triggers were an invitation?
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Hi there! Today, I want to share a simple but powerful tool with you—one that has shifted the way I respond when I’m triggered. Here’s the question: “How would I respond to this if I were truly prioritizing my self-care? How would I respond if I felt strong?” Triggers have a way of hijacking us. Our bodies tighten, our thoughts race, and before we know it, we’re reacting from old patterns instead of from our power. But this question does something important:
When you ask yourself this in the moment, a few things happen:
And here’s the thing: choosing self-care in those moments doesn’t always mean walking away or saying nothing. Sometimes it looks like setting a boundary, sometimes it looks like staying curious, sometimes it looks like speaking up with clarity. The key is that you’re responding from strength—not fear, not habit. So I want to challenge you: the next time you feel triggered, try asking yourself this question. See what shifts. Notice how your body feels. Notice how the moment changes. You deserve to move through life from a place of care and strength, not just survival. With you in this, Jose 💛
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