What's the difference between danger and discomfort?
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Hi friend, When emotions run high (yours or someone else’s), it’s easy to confuse discomfort with danger. ⚡️If someone’s anger turns into disrespect or cruelty, you may truly be in emotional or physical danger. In that case, it’s completely OK (and healthy!) to protect yourself. 💛But if someone is simply expressing intense feelings while still treating you with respect, you’re safe, even if it feels uncomfortable in your body. The key is awareness. When you can pause, notice what’s happening, and check in with yourself before reacting, you give your nervous system space to breathe. You get to respond from calm instead of fear. 🌱And when you do that, you don’t have to run from discomfort. You can grow through it. With you in the work, Jose 💛
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