Hi friend, This is the part people don’t usually warn you about. You can make the right choice and still feel activated afterward. Discomfort after a boundary, a decision, or a moment of honesty doesn’t mean you did something wrong. It means your nervous system is learning something new. Learning to sit with discomfort doesn’t happen on the first try. It happens through repetition. Through staying—again and again—even when your body wants to brace, explain, or rush away. In the video I'm...
7 days ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, Our collective nervous systems took another blow on January 7, when 37-year-old Renee Nicole Good—a mother, poet, and beloved neighbor in Minneapolis—was shot and killed by a U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) agent during a federal enforcement action. Her death has sparked grief, outrage, protests, vigils across the country, and a national conversation about force, fear, and who gets to live safely in this country. Whether you watched the footage, scrolled past it, or...
14 days ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, With the new year upon us, we're all thinking about what's new and fresh, what resolutions to make, and what to change. I personally don't think that big change comes from our big moments and decisions. Instead, it comes from small moments where we choose to do something a little different. With consistency, our bodies start to realize that we'll be OK even if something does change. We won't disappear. This is how things shift. And it can happen even before the mind catches up and...
21 days ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, The video I'm sharing with you this week depicts a common scene: me leaving early from a social engagement because my energy is drained. It happens pretty often this time of year with so many holiday parties and gatherings. I made this video because I want to encourage you to do what I do: to leave when you need to. Sometimes people will make comments like, "You're leaving already?" "Stay longer!" "Come on!" Even though it may not sound like it at the time, these are ways that...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, Once I set a boundary with a friend, and they were disappointed. Their reaction wasn’t dramatic, but mine was! I felt like I did something wrong. I wanted to fix it, or take it back, or smooth it over before they even got a word in. The thing I had to realize was… they still respected my boundaries. I was the one struggling with their emotions. I’ve had to learn to sit with this kind of tension, and I wanted to share this because I think a lot of you are also learning this lesson...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, If there’s one thing we can always count on, it’s change. It’s the one constant we all share. Yet, it’s the thing we often resist the most. And honestly? That resistance is exhausting. 😩 But here’s the truth: change is going to show up whether we invite it or not. So instead of bracing against it, what if this week you met change head-on? Think about everything you’ve already navigated. You've probably endured new jobs, moves, shifting friendships, relationships beginning and...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, I don’t know about you, but I grew up believing that being an “understanding” person meant keeping my own feelings quiet so everyone else could stay comfortable. 🙊 Sound familiar? The thing is… feelings don’t disappear. They build. They bubble. And eventually, they spill over—usually in ways we don’t feel proud of. 🌋 Here’s the reframe I want to offer you this week: Naming your feelings isn’t selfish. It’s caring. It’s caring for you—your nervous system, your needs, your...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, For a long time, I was the kind of person who didn’t want to disturb anyone, bother anyone, or risk “dumping” my feelings on the people I cared about. Maybe you know that feeling too: the tightness in your chest right before you send a text asking for help, or the guilt that creeps in when you consider opening up about something hard. But today, I want to flip that story on its head: Think about someone you really love. Now imagine they come to you with a problem, a fear, or a...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Hi friend, If you grew up in an immigrant or first-generation household, you probably didn’t see a lot of emotional processing happening out loud. Our parents and caregivers didn’t have time to sit with their feelings—they were surviving, working, building, protecting, pushing forward. And if no one ever modeled emotional awareness for us, it makes sense that we weren’t taught how to feel our feelings, name them, or talk about them either. What does that mean for us now? Sometimes, when we’re...
3 months ago • 1 min read